Winning

What’s one of your biggest fears?
Spiders? The dark? Death? Rollarcoasters? ….Commitment?

Now, what are you scared of? 

See there’s a difference between being scared and having a fear or what others call, ‘phobia.’ You can be scared of something, but that’s not going to stop you from doing what you have to do. Let’s take for example me being scared of spiders. If I had a child who was defenseless and there was a black widow casually crawling towards my child, me being scared is not going to stop me from trying to kill the spider, grab my baby, pack our bags and burn the house down, right?

Fears on the other hand will KEEP you from doing something. My best friend and her huge fear of driving, will KEEP her from doing so. Kelsey? Yeah, she absolutely HATES it and will not touch a wheel. She’s 19 and she’s “taking her time” in getting over it so she can start driving. It tickles me sometimes.

Anyways, that’s the difference between being scared and having a fear.
I personally have a few, and everyone can have more than one fear. In order my fears would have to be the fear of rejection, being alone, failure, abandonment, and holes. I was always told by my brother and also Kelsey that I am a ‘people pleaser,’ and the meaning is in the name itself. I was and still am always scared of people not liking me for who I am or rejecting me, whether it’s a job, my friends, family, guys I’ve dated or am dating now, schools, anything you could think of. I have a hard time saying ‘no’ because I’m such a nice person and I hate that. It’s both a strength and a weakness. None of it meaning me wanting to be liked because I’m big headed or egotistic, I’m none of those things. It’s just because I hate when people are displeased with my presence and I feel bad for it. Being alone scares me because I love people and I love being next to someone or making sure their attention is on me and that they know I am there. Failure will keep me from getting back up and doing whatever I tried, because I’m scared of failing again, and abandonment just leads me to being alone. Also, I can’t stand holes. Don’t even want to say it, see it or talk about it, and it’s the little holes too. I’m cringing and want to cry right now because of it, it’s horrible.

Any of these fears I have can keep me from doing what I do or I just won’t try, which isn’t bad, I mean it’s human right? However, it’s not great either because how am I suppose to reach my goals if I have fears stopping me from all around? From rejection to abandonment and failure, how am I suppose to live my life and raise my future children to not fear anything?

Simply by reading His word.
Repeating to myself from Psalm 56:3, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” In Joshua 1:9, it states, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Because He is with you, you shouldn’t be afraid of spiders or the dark. Because He has you, you shouldn’t fear what is going to happen after your job interview, or what your college test scores will be. Granted it’s human and totally normal to be concerned or scared, but do not let fear stop you from rising, shining and grinding for your goal. While everyone else lays away, goes to parties, sleeps or does their own thing, don’t let your fear of what other people’s opinions are of you stop you from working hard and reaching what your aspire to be one day. 

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:34) If God is for you, who could be against you? There will be trouble out there. There will be trials and dark valleys to go through, but I promise you, if you put your trust in Jesus, He will comfort you and walk with you and will never leave nor forsake you.

One of my favorite stories in the Bible is the one where the disciples were on a boat, and saw Jesus walking on water but were afraid because they thought He was a ghost and immediately Jesus said, “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” Then Peter asked “Lord if it’s you, let me come to you on water,” and so as Jesus told Peter to walk towards Him, Peter began to panic halfway through and was afraid.
He began to cry out, “Lord, save me!”
Jesus then reached out His hand and caught Peter while he was sinking saying, “You of little faith, why did you doubt?” Afterwards, everyone started praising and worshipping, believing in the Son of God.

This story reminds me of how us, as humans and as children of God, we take a lot of the little things and over think it. Personally as a woman, I sure do over think the littlest of things, and the devil has his way of hovering over us and giving us this fear factor of, “you can’t do it, you’re not enough for it, you’re going to fail, just quit,” and it becomes a repetitive voice that lingers, including insecurity and anxiety, and it begins to build more and more, and we forget the one and simple note that Jesus is for us and He is with us. He’s the one who gives us strength, hope and courage to take on the day and whatever happens, the consequences or mistakes, we take them as is and keep moving forward. You get back up, you don’t stop, you don’t quit, you just GET UP and KEEP MOVING. 

Your fear may always be there, telling you the worst of things to scare you, but God’s voice is heard over the distractions and all the noises saying, “come through, child, come through,” and don’t cut corners for anybody because you want and need to do it God’s way more than you should do it your way or their way. Your faith doesn’t prevent you from going through an attack, it gives you the fortitude to get back up.

As said in Psalm 37:23-24, “The LORD directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the LORD hold them by hand.” He’s got your back like no one else has, and the amount of encouragement I want to send you today, I hope you know that I believe you can do it, I believe you can withstand the storm and let the chains break because if you only have faith as little as a mustard seed, you can go a long ways.

I know this blog is super late, and I usually do my posting on Sundays/Mondays, but here I am and I’m super sorry! But I love you readers so much, and I encourage you today, to read into His word. Look up how many verses there are about fear and let Him comfort you. His love stood down death and crushed the devil’s head. Fear is just a liar running out of breath. Let the devil know, “NOT TODAY.” And share to everyone else, lifting them up, that we are all standing on Jesus’ Name. 

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Love you buckets,
Mal

3 thoughts on “Winning

  1. A wonderful piece of advice. One shouldn’t fear his/her circumstances. To be frank, I fear dogs but I do admire them. And I firmly believe, this fear will be washed away like my fear of meeting new people.
    Great thoughts!
    Live well. 🙂

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